Hey there! Whew, it’s been a bit my friends. I’ve been going through it and Divorce is hard! All of my attention has been directed at healing, resting, feeling my way through all of it, helping my babies navigate these big changes, and continue with homeschooling.
It’s a tough thing- to know how much to share here and how much to let play out first. But I will share this because I think it’s really important. How mindful are you of your own patterns of thought and behavior? I’ve been talking a big talk about learning to respond vs. react, about setting more firm boundaries, about living from a place of love instead of a place of fear, about reaching out when we feel scared or alone instead of drifting down our own shame cycles. And friends- the cool thing about life is that we get to practice what we ‘preach’ time and time again! Yay for practice, right?! We’ll never do it perfectly- because that’s not a thing. But we do get better with practice. And so, if you’re in the thick of it and you’re showing up and you’re trying… keep it up and remember that you’re NOT alone! One shift at a time. One thought at a time. Stay in the present moment as much as you can. This allows us to stay close to our centers and live with Integrity (so we don’t have to ‘remember’ which changes we’re trying to make- because we just Know what feels right and we trust it)!!!
My other thing is this: Are you doing what’s easy or what’s right? Often times we know things in our guts and in our bones. We know what the right thing is, but we choose the easy thing in the moment because, well, it’s easy! And let’s be honest- in times like we’re in right now (collectively) I think it’s safe to say it all feels hard right now! Some of those things are worth fighting for and some are not. And I’m finding that if we tune into our hearts and honor what feels right, then we free up time and space for the things that don’t, and we create more energy within ourselves. This is vital for living and shifting out of survival!
So, friends, keep talking the talk and walk it as closely as you can! Know you’re not alone, reach out when you need to. Allow yourselves to be held -even if it’s by the Earth, or maybe your dog! Stay committed to what’s right (for you). Stay as close to your heart as possible and remember to shower yourself with as much grace and compassion you would a best friend or a small child!
5 Things you can do right in this moment:
- Take a deep breath, clear down into your belly. Make a big sigh as you exhale. (or breathe however you want!)
- Place your feet on the Earth and put your hand on your Heart. This helps ground you and pull you into center.
- Write down 3 things you’re really grateful for and really let yourself FEEL the gratitude.
- Think of something or watch something funny and let yourself laugh… belly laugh.
- Move your body. Turn on your favorite song and dance, take a walk, find a yoga class on YouTube- whatever your jam is… give yourself a few minutes to get out of your head and into your body!
I hope at least one of those ideas is helpful. Overwhelm can set in fast, as can anxiety, or depressive thoughts and these above tools help bring us back into the present moment where we can see more clearly and move with more integrity.
I love you and you’re doing great,
Erin:)